Not so long ago I was criticized for "putting my whole life out for the world to read.". This was not the first time I've been criticized or have had my own words thrown back and used against me.
I hesitated a lot before posting my last post. It's pretty personal information that I'm openly writing to whomever should stumble... or stalk... upon this blog.
I ultimately decided to post about our therapy/counseling because had it not been for this blog, and for my openness, I probably would never have gotten the advice and support and encouragement that I did in order to take that leap and seek out help.
In the past I have found it very therapeutic to blog about things that I'm dealing with... whether it be frustrations, disappointment, grief, etc. I have found so much unexpected support from readers near and far, and from people I never would have know to have the same issues I have.
I guess what it comes down to is that I am not ashamed of my life or of my struggles. I have nothing to hide, I'm proud of the way I live my life, and I have no reason to pretend my life is perfect. No ones life is perfect. I don't expect everyone to understand or to agree with my openness. But for me, I don't have skeletons in my closet and if I did... you'd probably see them through my glass house.
-- Post From My iPhone
I for one appreciate your honesty. I hate reading blogs where all the writer talks about is how great their life is, how perfect their kids are, how their house is always clean and how they are always happy. We all know that life isn't perfect for anyone and those blog writers are not fooling any of us! I appreciate your openness and your transparency.
ReplyDeleteKeep being yourself Nicole! Anyone who judges you must have something they are ashamed of, but just cannot get inside their own closets to clean them out!
ReplyDeleteI second what Laura said, you keep real & don't put a shine on it!
Well, i am not too big of a fan reading blogs where life seems like rainbows and unicorns all the damn time! i can think of a few right now.....it's your blog. if others don't like the content, move along then!
ReplyDeleteWell said Nicole! Part of the reason I have always loved your blog is because it's REAL. It's not one of those blogs where the persons life is so perfect & they bake cookies everyday, have a spotless house & have perfectly behaved children. Keep it up! All the haters should just stop reading if they don't like it. You are AUTHENTIC and you shouldn't change that for anything or anyone.
ReplyDeleteI agree. You need to be able to write what you want when you want. My MIL gives me grief about what I write. I finally told her if you don't like it then don't read it. By putting your struggles out there it makes other realize that they are not alone. My life is not perfect nor normal but it is the life I have choosen.
ReplyDeletesuper post! I love your honesty and openness, I think alot of moms can relate. Please continue to be yourself and express yourself. AND if they don't like tell them to stop reading it!
ReplyDeleteIt's so great that you are not afraid to be honest and aren't ashamed of the way you live your life. It's what makes this a great blog! Keep it up! :)
ReplyDeleteI could not agree more... I love to post about the "reality" of life... and I like reading about your reality! I respect you more for showing your battle scars... and I am really glad you shared your struggles.... and I could, in turn, share mine! I'm not ashamed at all that we had to take Ally (and ourselves) to a therapist! And I like sharing myself in that way because I am convinced it helps others..... Keep up the great blogging.... I love to read about all of it!
ReplyDeleteI already wrote you and said I love your Blog more now than before. Now that the 'baby phase' is over and you talk about life with 2 growing boys, it's more real and relatable than ever!!
ReplyDeleteAnd...if you ask your Therapist, they will tell you that "Blogging" is an excellent form of therapy. Those who feel the need to keep things pent up for fear of what others may say have a harder time emotionally & often have a higher stress/anxiety level.
Plus, the people who are critical about those that Blog freely are the ones with issues...not you!! What you say or do in your own life shouldn't be any of their concern, or a negative reflection of you as a person, if you don't make it a personal attack against the ones complaining. Most are just jealous!!
some people area always looking for something to judge/criticize. i love your blog the way it is.
ReplyDeletei admire your blog! i sometimes am 'that' person that doesn't put things out there, because i think about who reads it. I wouldn't mind my bloggy friends and real life friends knowing all the details, but I usually stick to the nicer side of things in my life, because of the 'adults' in my life that read it. Like my inlaws, my parents, and grandparents, aunts and uncles, and so forth. Ive considered making another blog, that would be more for myself, but then hope that it wouldnt leak out to these other family members... see, i just cant do it. i really do admire that you do this and not care about what people percieve of you. And from what im reading in the comments, and myself included, we love that you are being real, upfront, and honest with everything! once again, i admire you for this! :)
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